I grew up in a house where love was transactional. Not cruelly, it was just the way it was. Be a version that I want you to be and you receive love. The price was never written down but it was always real, and I learnt what parts of me caused withdrawal and what brought warmth.

The people pleaser was born in that economy. The one who gives everything and asks for very little, because asking feels dangerous

What If ADHD Is Just Trauma With Better Branding?" and I think it might be the most useful thing I've written in a while — especially if you're a woman in midlife who has spent years being extremely capable and quietly exhausted by it.

Dissociation isn't just dramatic or clinical — it's driving on autopilot, scrolling to escape, overthinking your feelings. Here's how embodiment changes that