I grew up in a house where love was transactional. Not cruelly, it was just the way it was. Be a version that I want you to be and you receive love. The price was never written down but it was always real, and I learnt what parts of me caused withdrawal and what brought warmth.

The people pleaser was born in that economy. The one who gives everything and asks for very little, because asking feels dangerous

What If ADHD Is Just Trauma With Better Branding?" and I think it might be the most useful thing I've written in a while — especially if you're a woman in midlife who has spent years being extremely capable and quietly exhausted by it.

Dissociation isn't just dramatic or clinical — it's driving on autopilot, scrolling to escape, overthinking your feelings. Here's how embodiment changes that

For most of my life I was practical, capable and independent.

The sort of woman who simply got on with things.

Then somewhere during menopause the emotional landscape began to shift in ways I didn’t expect.

Menopause, trauma, and the moment the body says no more bypassing. Have you ever read the book by Michael Rosen “We Are Going on a Bear Hunt” to your kids?

The text that is repeated throughout the book is:

“We can’t go over it,

we can’t go under it –

oh no,

we’ve got to go through it.”

If you’ve ever felt confused by all the different types of yoga out there, you’re not alone.

You might see the terms trauma-informed or trauma-sensitive being used—but what do they really mean?

And how are they different from a typical yoga class?

The different variations of trauma explained in a succinct way. PTSD, C-PTSD, Complex trauma, big T trauma and little t trauma.

On the surface, it might seem like you are zoning out or “just being forgetful,” but for many trauma survivors, dissociation becomes a default way of navigating life.